Psychology of the individual- a specialty for which most of Jeeves' success must be attributed; and which has kept me preoccupied for the past two years. It is a really interesting subject of study once we get the essence of it. I first started by identifying myself- my character, which was indistinct even to me then.
I identified my strengths in the first place and then my weaknesses- all thanks to the best ever Moral Science classes given my class teacher in my final year of schooling. And I understood that once we identify our weakness we've overcome it by 50%. The difficult part is the identification- the places where we are vulnerable. Well, as I kept working on my character, I identified how many people have the same thought pattern as me in my surroundings. I understood why like poles repel (in psychology sense) then. I really get a doubtful feeling when I meet any person who seems to have the same character as me in more and more aspects, because as long as we identify only the likeness between us we'll be able to freely share our thoughts. The moment one small difference arises, there'll probably be a feud, or if not an open confrontation, we'll probably carry the bitterness in our hearts and not confide in each other, which is even worse.
The best way to overcome a difference in opinion between any friends (or any humans for that matter) is to put ourselves in the other person's place and think what we'd do in that situation. This has worked out most of the time for me in the recent months and has helped me relax. But the difficult part is to calm ourselves and think of the situation from the other person's perspective. Most of the time taking deep breaths or counting 1 to 10 or telling some sloka doesn't help me. I feel that I can control myself only by controlling my thought pattern. If we feel that this is not the right time for making decisions, we ought not to make any decision at that time as it may prove to be disastrous in the long run. We should give time to relax ourselves and decide only when our mind clears, let it take weeks or months. When we think of something in a relaxed state, we'll find that our own mind is actually capable of giving the best possible advice. Following it WILL definetly lead us to success even when we do not know the way to success. And understanding people will help in relating with the others in all situations.
For instance I've seen how being honest takes us on the right path even when we ourselves are not aware of the direction to be taken for the right path. In fact, I visualize honesty as a police inspector who barricades every other path other than the correct one and doesn't let us climb over it without his knowledge too, as people usually do in Avinashi Road. Loyalty and Sincerity are probably SIs in the department. Seriously everybody should try this out to feel the truth in this. And many people don't realize that their happiness is attributed to this special department. Another one of the unrecognized steadfast set of people I would say.
Think of all the happy moments in your lives. At least one of these people will have had a role in it.
I identified my strengths in the first place and then my weaknesses- all thanks to the best ever Moral Science classes given my class teacher in my final year of schooling. And I understood that once we identify our weakness we've overcome it by 50%. The difficult part is the identification- the places where we are vulnerable. Well, as I kept working on my character, I identified how many people have the same thought pattern as me in my surroundings. I understood why like poles repel (in psychology sense) then. I really get a doubtful feeling when I meet any person who seems to have the same character as me in more and more aspects, because as long as we identify only the likeness between us we'll be able to freely share our thoughts. The moment one small difference arises, there'll probably be a feud, or if not an open confrontation, we'll probably carry the bitterness in our hearts and not confide in each other, which is even worse.
The best way to overcome a difference in opinion between any friends (or any humans for that matter) is to put ourselves in the other person's place and think what we'd do in that situation. This has worked out most of the time for me in the recent months and has helped me relax. But the difficult part is to calm ourselves and think of the situation from the other person's perspective. Most of the time taking deep breaths or counting 1 to 10 or telling some sloka doesn't help me. I feel that I can control myself only by controlling my thought pattern. If we feel that this is not the right time for making decisions, we ought not to make any decision at that time as it may prove to be disastrous in the long run. We should give time to relax ourselves and decide only when our mind clears, let it take weeks or months. When we think of something in a relaxed state, we'll find that our own mind is actually capable of giving the best possible advice. Following it WILL definetly lead us to success even when we do not know the way to success. And understanding people will help in relating with the others in all situations.
For instance I've seen how being honest takes us on the right path even when we ourselves are not aware of the direction to be taken for the right path. In fact, I visualize honesty as a police inspector who barricades every other path other than the correct one and doesn't let us climb over it without his knowledge too, as people usually do in Avinashi Road. Loyalty and Sincerity are probably SIs in the department. Seriously everybody should try this out to feel the truth in this. And many people don't realize that their happiness is attributed to this special department. Another one of the unrecognized steadfast set of people I would say.
Think of all the happy moments in your lives. At least one of these people will have had a role in it.
